How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex from a Christian Perspective | Biblical Sex Ed with Kristen Miele
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In a world that feels increasingly progressive and "pornified," many Christian parents feel like they’re playing a permanent game of catch-up. Whether you are raising kids in California or abroad, the cultural pressure to let schools and social media define sexuality is immense.
But what if we stopped being afraid? What if we moved from a place of "sex is shameful" to the biblical truth that sex is good and created by God for His glory?
On a recent episode of the Christian Podcast, Beto sat down with Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to discuss how parents can move from "blasphemous" ideas about sexuality to "divine" discipleship.
Who is Kristen Miele & Sex Ed Reclaimed?
Her story: Kristen has a background in public health (Bachelor’s and Master’s in Community Health; Certified Health Education Specialist). She and her husband (a physician) served in missions in Honduras, where she taught sex education to youth, parents, and at a health department/children’s home—covering bodies, puberty, God’s design, and more. They returned to the U.S. around 2021 after a clear sense from God that they shouldn’t go back. During prayer, the vision for Sex Ed Reclaimed emerged: compile the lessons she’d taught into accessible online resources. She bought the domain shortly after and has been building it for about three years.
What it is: Biblically grounded, age-appropriate Christian sex education curriculum for kids ages 3–18. It includes videos (for kids), parent-tip videos, workbooks, grading rubrics (great for homeschoolers), and lifetime access. Topics cover God’s good design for bodies and sex, boundaries, puberty, identity, cultural issues (porn, gender, hookup culture), shame/redemption, and more. The goal is to help parents disciple their kids sexually—not outsource it—while confronting lies from culture and porn. It’s used in all 50 states and 14+ countries.
The Problem: We’re Teaching Shame, Not Truth
Many of us grew up in a "don’t talk about it" culture. Kristen points out that the most "blasphemous" idea we can pass on is that sex is bad, dirty, or that God doesn’t want us to talk about it.
When we stay silent, we aren’t protecting our children’s innocence; we are handing their sexual formation over to a culture that views identity as "whatever you feel" rather than who God created you to be.
Moving from Flesh to Foundation
Culture tells our kids: Do whatever your flesh tells you. Your identity is your desire.
The Bible tells our kids: Your heart is deceitful. Your identity is found in your Creator.
Reclaiming the conversation isn't just about rules; it’s about theology. Beto shared how he starts conversations with his teenagers by simply stating: "Sex is Good". This foundation changes the dynamic. It moves parents away from being "rule-checkers" and transforms them into sexual disciplers.
You Are the Best Person for the Job
One of the most powerful moments of the conversation was Kristen’s reminder to every parent: You are the right person to talk to your kids.
"You are their discipler," Kristen says. "Just because you care about their spiritual formation doesn't mean you shouldn't care about their sexual formation. They were born from sex. They have sexuality. Don't leave this out because you’re scared."
Action Steps for Parents:
1. Pray First: Ask the Holy Spirit for the words. Kristen and Beto emphasized that the Holy Spirit can intervene and help you navigate even the most difficult topics.
2. Start with the "Good": Follow Beto's lead—start by affirming that God created sex as something good and holy.
3. Acknowledge the World: Don’t ignore what they see at school. Discuss the difference between "fleshly" desires and "image-bearing" identity.
4. Use Resources: You don’t have to do it alone. Resources like Sex Ed Reclaimed offer age-appropriate tools to help parents bridge the gap.
A Hopeful Future
The "Divine Idea" of this conversation is simple: God cares about this. When we reclaim these conversations, we aren’t just giving our kids "the facts"—we are inviting them into a more joyful, God-honoring way of life.
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